answer:Your daughter not having a father has made her want the approval of all men (not just good ones), to her own detriment. I know because I was the same way for most of my life. She can change how she reacts to them and can be in control of the situation if she chooses to do so, but a lot of women can’t shake the ‘approval’ thing, a daddy fixation that requires a man to be around all the time. Was she wrong, of course. I’m sure she knows it. The only thing you can do is to take the kids as much as you can, talk to Alisa about managing your temper and making good choices, give her a better example of interpersonal communication than she currently has. Believe it or not, hearing and seeing her mother and how ugly it all is, may be what makes her do the opposite. That’s what I did.