Does Facebook cheer you up or bring you down when you are going through a difficult time?

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answer:It makes me feel connected to my far flung friends. And my involvement with FB was because of two people dealing with serious health issues. The first was a high school friend who was always well liked despite having poor health even as a teenager. 5 years ago he was in ICU waiting for a liver/bowel transplant, and reconnected with everyone he knew via Facebook. As a result, many of us who had lost touch with each other reconnected because of Hank. (After 18 months on the waiting list, Hank had his transplant but never recovered from the surgery.) Another friend was found to have Stage Three breast cancer, and has used Facebook for support and communication ever since. So it has gone from the mundane to some deeply moving and spiritually enlightening moments. I find that it’s a good way to let people know what is going on with me.

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