Is it my place to bring up something said by a friend while drunk?

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I would let her go to you with this info. I would be pissed if someone was like, “You said some crazy shit last night.” If you are friends you learn to share. Maybe sharing some stuff about you will help her share. My mother shot my father in the forehead when I was ten. I kinda know about hiding stuff from people. It took a long time and a newspaper article that all my friends saw to give up.

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