How much attention can you handle at once?

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answer:I’m lost as to the issue with the OP on this particular thread. To answer the question, I value my time to myself and I’ve had a friend who keeps getting on me because she says she needs “dinners, phone calls and movies” and I need or want none of that. I am fine seeing my friends twice a year if it comes to that. Phone calls, I’m not into at all unless there’s something important like death or illness in the family. I like being alone. I like people too but I’m ok shopping alone, going to movies alone, stuff like that.

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