How should I handle the new roommate situation for this upcoming year?

How should I handle the new roommate situation for this upcoming year?
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answer:About K, I am sure she was trying her best all summer to be able to continue school. Unless you learn otherwise, be kind and realize her education is on hold because of money. L you already know about, so you can continue to be friendly, but realize you can only trust her a little. Don;t rely on her for anything vital or you may be very disappointed when she flakes again. As to your new roomies, try to stay as positive and realize you may be meeting your closest friends f the rest of your life. That’s true even if they know each other. Trios of girl friends are more likely to have an issue if its just the three of them, they need you to be a break from the threesome. You have chance to make some good friends if you are open and friendly. Take the lead the first night and suggest a place for you to all go for dinner together. Have a great school year!
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