I am friends with someone who is nice to me but my friend group doesn't like them?

I am friends with someone who is nice to me but my friend group doesn't like them?
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It’s difficult to give you thoughts, because we don’t know the details about why the group ostracized Z. We don’t know if they acted unfairly. You have a very delicate balancing act to attempt. I wish you luck.
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