What is your opinion on dating an ex's friend? What about a friend's ex?

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There are millions of other people in the world. By getting mixed up with friend’s exes and exes friends you are just inviting bad feelings. Even if people tell you that it’s OK. It’s never really OK. It creates un-necessary drama and weird alliances.

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