I have a friend who is really really nice to me but mean to other people. What should I do to stand up to her without ruining OUR good friendship?

I have a friend who is really really nice to me but mean to other people. What should I do to stand up to her without ruining OUR good friendship?
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She probably has an anger problem. Maybe she can learn by your example. Rather that telling her specifically a better way to behave, she can over time see how you react to things. Or, maybe you can ask her why she gets so angry? She probably has a lot of hurt i side of her. From your friendship she might grow, and begin to change. Are you both young? The younger you are the more chance she can change I think.
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