Parents: How do you prepare your older sibling for a new sibling?

Parents: How do you prepare your older sibling for a new sibling?
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Good question. I have an (almost) 2 year old, and my wife is due in November as well. I have heard that a good thing to do is to make the older child feel special and to enlist their “help” in picking things out, making arrangements, etc. I am eager to see other peoples’ responses though, as my wife and I are very concerned that our rampaging 2 year old won’t quite understand what’s happening.
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