Is having children at an older age (thirties into forties) a feminist triumph?

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answer:I think that a person can have babies whenever age and be feminist or unfeminist. There is pressure in the US to give birth if you are a woman but say, when compared to Russia, the age is later (late 20s). It can be a feminist act to have kids later or not to have kids at all but when you make that decision of yours a benchmark and mark your decision as feminist, it creates weird exclusions. So, what if in certain contexts, you have 3 kids by the time you’re 20 given your racial and class location and barriers to contraception or whatever – does that mean anything unfeminist? Not automatically. What if reproductive technologies, as data indicates, is a realm of white and well-off persons? What if those technologies are not ‘the norm’ for many many groups who have children early on? It doesn’t really say one thing or another because there are complicated societal patterns. It being childfree more feminist than being a stay at home mom? Not necessarily. That article is problematic, obviously. It’s part of this push against people putting something else, like careers, before kids. But it seems to a problem only when women do it, since men are supposed (in this society) to put all of that above kids, like to put a career above kids. It’s all sort of fucked-up. Also, you can make some particular family decision and not have feminist politics, because sometimes being a feminist is about how you vote on policies for other people. So, if you have a kid in your 40s and you still think that if she’s a girl, she has to do particular things because she is a girl, that’s not really feminist. Then you have an issue of defining feminisms. I say feminisms because, literally, there are hundreds of different feminisms (historically, theoretically and worldwide). If you define it as equality between men and women, most people do want that and I’d call them feminists but they wouldn’t call themselves that since they might define it somehow anti-men or women are better than men (I’d say that’s not feminism but I often fight with other feminists on things that I perceive to be anti-men).

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