Did your parents ever make you think that you were unwanted?

Did your parents ever make you think that you were unwanted?
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answer:I was unwanted, unplanned and pretty much jacked up my mom and dad’s life. For me, I felt love from my mom and the rest of my family, so it wasn’t a huge issue. When I got older and started realizing the extent of my mother’s experience with my father and all the negativity she had to deal with, I felt horrible. She also told me once that she wished I’d never been born, and it was very hurtful. To this day, there is still distance between us that may never heal, and I definately have trust issues with other people as well. As my niece put it, if you can’t trust your parents, the people who are supposed to love you no matter what, then who can you trust with your heart. As far as your friend goes, I think it’s horrible of her to continue saying things like that. If she can’t love her child and get over the resentment, she needs to let someone else have him and love him appropriately before she does damage to him. I don’t have kids and don’t choose to, but if an accident happened, I’d raise that child with all the love I’m capable of. She may need some therapy or something.
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