Why do people care if being gay is something you're born with or something you choose?

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The logic is: If you choose it, it’s a moral issue, and “reasonable” people can be against moral issues. If you’re born with it, it’s more of a discrimination issue (sort of like race), so you can’t be opposed to it unless you’re a bigot. One shouldn’t care, but those who wish to impose their own morality on others, care what you do on your own time.

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