Is it really possible to be loving, friendly, always positive and full of positive energy, warm and comforting -- without being phony or fake or plastic?

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answer:Not everyone is going to share one’s values, because one’s ideas of peace and love may be different than another, or is achieved through differing means. Which is, partly, why different cultures and beliefs exist in the first place. No one here is going to argue that pedophiles suck, but in some places a grown man is able to marry a young girl. You’ll never reach every single person in your community, let alone the world. Of course you will never be able to be positive and warm all the time, even if it is in your nature. There will be cynicism and sorrow, as there is even for the people who appear to be a constant pool of radiance.

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