Different people have different ideas about a lot of things :) Yes, one person can be both love of your life as well as a soulmate. Then again, you may find your love of your life and be with them, and then five years later meet your soulmate one day randomly. Then again, you may be in a relationship with your soulmate, and then five years later meet your love of your life one day randomly, too. Another outcome, your soulmate may not necessarily be someone you want to have an intimate sexual relationship with. What it really boils down to is what’s behind the labels of “soulmate” and “love of your life”. This is something you’ll need to do by yourself. Sit down one day with two pieces of paper out. On one sheet, write SOULMATE, and on the other, write LOVE OF MY LIFE. Then, start listing attributes that you would like to see displayed by each group. You will likely see that many of them overlap. But you may also be able to see where they don’t overlap, and thus refine your personal definitions of the words as well as your mindset towards what a soulmate and a love of your life really mean to you.