Anger lessons with time also. Anger usually stems from emotional pain in my experience. If you are angry at someone I think many times being able to talk to them and understand their motives or perspective can be very helpful, unless that person truly has malicious intent. When we put ourselves in the other persons shoes and are able to step outside of our own minds we can empathasize more with the other person and this lessons the anger. When the other person will not participate in a conversation I get very frustrated and dwell on the anger and sadness longer than I probably should. I never drink or use drugs to deal with it. I’ve never thrown something across a room. I do turn to friends and talk their ear off, and spend some time crying.