Are we the creators of our own problems?

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I do not think that is wholly true. I think many of our personal problems stem from unresolved childhood wounds. In the sense that we don’t address those issues, we then perpetuate our problems and keep them from being resolved. I don’t think it is usually a conscious choice though.

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