How do we come to get 'crushes' on people?

How do we come to get 'crushes' on people?
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Crushes are that aha moment when something clicks and you realize that person is someone special. For me it happened many times and often with someone where either she or I were “involved” with someone which again as you say made it “truly odd”. For me having a crush always seems to make the time with that person shall we say…a lot more interesting!
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