Which "faux pas" do you think are outdated? Which are still important?

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answer:I have never understood why people want to hide their age. Here is some of the etiquette that matter to me: – knowing how to hold a fork and knife properly – how to set a table – firm handshake – Young children should use Mr or Ms lastname until corrected by the adult, and then use whatever the adult prefers (I know some people feel very differently about this, some of it has to do with the part of the country you are from). Generally white shoes don’t work after labor day if you are in the upper third of the US, October more or less would be the cut off for the middle third. Very south like Southern FL or TX you can get away with it all year on hot days, but you might look like a tourist. That is unless you are very fashion forward and white is right on trend that year, then there may be an exception. Side note: don’t confuse winter white with white. I have a fantastic white winter coat, but the fabric is clearly for the winter.

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