answer:I cannot speak to the racial aspects (I am whiter than Wonder bread) but as a geek with some strong opinions on things, I know all too well about not being accepted. However, I can always find somewhere where people do accept and like me. For me, it’s game stores, Linux user groups, and other geeky places. I’m not sure where you would go to find the same sort of acceptance, but I would imagine that it would be easier for you to find such a place as there are more people like you than there are people like me. FYI, I’m almost 40 myself, so I’ve been dealing with it almost as long as you have.