Did these bullies always get a slap on the wrist and that is why they felt they could set another kid on fire?

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answer:People always say stuff like this and it makes no sense to me. They set someone on fire. That isn’t something that can be fixed with a “good ol’ spankin’”. The kids who did that are fucked up. They have more serious issues than saying the “f-word” or something like that. I remember there was a question here about a kid who hit his own mother and people were saying “he needs a spanking!”. Yeah, that’s really going to fix a kid with serious issues who would beat up his own mother or light a kid on here. In other words, it’s more than just a lack of corporal punishment that leads someone to do something horrendous like that. It’s a combination of all different kinds of things strongly including ineffective parenting (not just in the discipline department) and it is most likely a product of the environment (the other kids or the general attitudes of the people in the area). It just seems way too simplistic to think that kids would set someone on fire because they didn’t get enough corporal punishment. There’s a lot more to the story than that. All I know is, if my teenager were hitting me or setting people on fire, I wouldn’t be thinking “wow, I should’ve hit him more”, I’d be thinking “wow, I seriously fucked my kid up and I hope it’s not too late to fix this.”

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