Description : Are they saying it just to say it?
Last Answer : It’s formulaic. Better to say, “What can I do? Be specific.”
Description : Can you help me decide between biting my tongue and saying something in this situation?
Last Answer : You ARE right about the awkward organization of the event, however just don't bother saying anything. Ask your neighbor to put in the money and don't worry about it. If it really bothers you, you ... : I wish it had been advertised differently. Enjoy it without putting too much emphasis on it.
Description : If you're slightly intoxicated on a Friday because you have a night off from parenting and work what would you avoid saying on Fluther so people don't get mad?
Last Answer : I don’t drink, but I know drunken fluthering is a very popular pastime here. Enjoy!
Description : Have you ever "trained" or "reprogrammed" yourself to stop saying or doing a certain thing that you habitually do/say?
Last Answer : Get a rubber band. Put it around your wrist. Snap yourself with it every time you catch yourself doing the Bad Thing.
Description : What do you think people mean when they talk about personal boundaries?
Last Answer : I have a friend who had a big problem with encroaching on boundaries. She used to poke my boyfriend on facebook, whom she had never met or spoken to. She contacted someone else I was casually dating ... for all the rest of your questions, those would have to be answered on a case-by-case basis.
Description : What could possibly be the reason why two people, working in the same office 5 days a week, chat online everyday but never talk in person?
Last Answer : Maybe they don’t listen well.
Description : When you get in an elevator with one random stranger, do you have to talk about something?
Last Answer : I’m great with the silence, but most people feel the need to talk. I dislike the people that get on the elevator and have to stand right next to me, in my space, when we are the only two on it. I get panicky thinking they are going to rob me or kill me.
Description : Is it true that some women need three men: one to talk, one to marry, and one for bed?
Last Answer : Just one with all of the above, and a side salad; thanks!
Description : If someone has some annoying behavior that you wish would change, have you found that doing something just as annoying to them in response can change the behavior?
Last Answer : I’m not a parent so have no idea in that form. Have tried to give idiot coworkers back what they gave out, and most times they all of a sudden become a poor little picked on victim that goes crying to the boss.
Description : What do you call the tactic or behavior when someone makes a vague accusation along with a statement like "and yes, you do know what I'm talking about" when you have no clue what they're referring to, and they won't tell you?
Last Answer : Could you have received the text accidentally? Maybe it was a misfire? But I have no idea what that would be called.
Description : How would you best word a "No Internet" sign for your house?
Last Answer : answer:Putting up a sign to remind a grown-assed adult to mind his manners is doomed to failure. If you cannot find a way to sit down with him calmly in order to discuss something that ... have serious issues with this relationship (and more than him simply being on his electron gadgets too much).
Description : If you know someone is planning to give you a holiday gift, do you feel an obligation to give them something in return?
Last Answer : My first reaction is a guilt free yes….I throw pottery so it is easy to send them home with a cool hand made gift as well
Description : If you thought someone blocked you from seeing the majority of their posts on FB, would you mention it to them the next time you saw them?
Last Answer : No. It isn’t your right to see anything your friends post. If you do, don’t say “Did you block me”, but something soft like “I miss seeing the pictures of your kids playing sports”.
Description : Can someone explain to me how it makes sense to "punish Syria" for killing people with poison gas by killing more people?
Last Answer : answer:It does not make sense but it may make national policy. Often two different and even contradictory things.
Description : Could someone help me understand the this strange behavior (inside for details)
Last Answer : Depending on your age, puberty & hormones are big factors in the answer to “why” in the sudden change.
Description : What would you do if you had plans with someone and they cancelled due to being sick but then you saw posts they put on FB, showing they went out anyway?
Last Answer : Why “do” anything ?? The liar-person was just revealing who they are. You pull the plug and move on. I’m not on Facebook, but…..isn’t that the purpose of the ‘Unfriend’ thing ??
Description : How come if someone smiles at or compliments someone of the same gender it's considered being nice, whereas if they do the same to the opposite gender it's viewed as flirtatious?
Last Answer : Nonsense that is not flirty, and if someone thinks that they have a narrow mind.
Description : Do you think this orangutan had an actual reason for doing this, or was he just being an asshole?
Last Answer : When you are a prisoner your whole life for no reason, it is only natural to develop animosity towards your captors.
Description : Do we control our personality, or just our behavior?
Last Answer : Any psychiatrist will tell you personality disorders are the most intractable . . and can only be managed with behavioral/cognitive therapy. What does that tell you?
Description : What can I do about a guy who is interested in me and smiles at me yet runs away whenever he sees me He talks to my friends about me but doens't talk to me he just stares... Any suggestions?
Last Answer : I suggest you get a group of friends together and go for Pizza and a movie. Invite him to come along. He sounds shy so this way he can get to know you without any pressure. You can talk with him and later if he is interested ask him someplace for just the two of you.
Description : Do you think that demanding accolades and awards as opposed to winning them based on performance and merit, is really the way to assure that you receive recognition in your field,?
Last Answer : The problem isn’t a group of people demanding awards; it is a complete lack of recognition of minority actors in the last two years.
Description : How can we expect to have well-rounded men when family and society sabotage them as boys?
Last Answer : answer:Very good question : ))) Simple to address the problem. By letting boys cry. By letting them mourn by letting them feel and express what they feel. That we all have to grow up and learn to ... then to feel comes later for girls and women. And they usually end up more well rounded as you say.
Description : Would you be angry if someone told you to calm down while you were panicking?
Last Answer : “Panic” has multiple meanings, so I’ll go with how you seem to be using it here (someone is upset about something). Telling someone to “calm down” is dismissive and I suspect you know that (your “snowflake” political declaration is pretty transparent).
Description : What would you do if someone posted something on FB that was extremely offensive, that involved killing an animal?
Last Answer : I would just unfriend them. You’re not going to change his thinking, he’s not particularly important to you; just cut him loose.
Description : How would you react if someone was very rude with you?
Last Answer : I would walk away and tell a Friend or family member about it for advice. I need an adult I need an adult.~
Description : If someone asks a question, and you answer that question honestly, even though the answer might upset the OP, should you refrain from answering honestly?
Last Answer : answer:I agree, sometimes calling a spade a spade is the only way to go. If the Jerk fits, and all that. Jerk is pretty mild when it comes to name calling. I think it has to do with A. Who the ... grievance just looking for a cause is okay as long as the word you is not used as an intro. haha
Description : Do you think that taking a video of someone can change their behavior?
Last Answer : Wouldn’t it be better to direct his conversation to more interesting topics, rather than trying to humiliate him into being silent?
Description : What do you do when someone you love exhibits behavior you detest in other people?
Last Answer : answer: Accept what you can change, change what you can accept . That's the saying I always stick to. To tell the truth, my best friend has some behavior that I really dislike. But I still try to put up ... her good one are just like a drop of ink on a white paper. Or maybe I'm just too tolerant
Description : How do you deal with someone who talks during a live performance?
Last Answer : Call an usher. Or go get one. That’s what they’re there for. To make stupid, rude people behave or leave.
Description : When someone gives you a compliment, what is the proper response?
Last Answer : answer:It is not at all necessary to reply to a compliment with a compliment. In fact, it almost seems insincere. Just say, “Why, thank you very much.” Then change the subject or walk away, whichever is appropriate.
Description : Are you justified in treating someone poorly if it gets the intended result?
Last Answer : Not in my book. But then, I have no interest in such competitions. I believe that people act best when treated well, not poorly.
Description : Gun Owners - If you came home and found someone ransacking your place would you shoot first and ask questions later?
Last Answer : Never.
Description : Apartment-dwellers: How do you get someone to stop ringing your bell if they're not coming up to see you?
Last Answer : drdoombot This has little to do with you living in an apartment and a lot to do with your family relationships. Either go down to the mailbox (or wherever your buzzer is) and put up a new name ... it's difficult enough living in a bldg with other family members and trying to conduct a private life.
Description : Have you ever thought you deserved to have something that someone else had, more?
Last Answer : what does removed mean, and who r these” moderators”?
Description : I'm having trouble with this. Is a lack of respect the same as disrespect?
Last Answer : I don’t think so. You can be ignorant and have lack of respect to those around you. But if you are aware of your actions then there is the intent for disrespect.
Description : Can you help me understand why so many people are obsessed with anti-bacterials and hand sanitizers for hands, but find it ok to put their dirty body in bed without showering?
Last Answer : hm, that is pretty gnarly.
Description : Will you expect me to pay/replace if I accidentally break something in your house?
Last Answer : I wouldn’t expect it but I’d surely appreciate it.
Description : Why would my parrot cling to me ?
Last Answer : If that’s the moment when his behavior changed, then yes, I would assume that is the cause. Does he cling to anyone else?
Description : Double doors: Do we only want to use the door they locked, or, do they lock the door everyone wants to use?
Last Answer : I know that sorta pisses me off at times I will just unlock the locked one. I could never figure out why they couldn’t just unlock both.
Description : How can it be said that shaming doesn’t work when it influences people’s behavior even if they don’t admit that it does?
Last Answer : answer:No one says shaming doesn't influence behaviour - it's just a dick thing to do, and by this point in time we should know better than to think we have the right to dictate other ... the same as, say, saying shitty things about people because of their weight, health, or fashion choices.
Description : When it comes to questions on ethics, are people honest in their answers, or do they lean more towards answering in a vague PC way so as to not appear in an unflattering way?
Last Answer : Most people would knock him off the bike and pound him. And not feel bad about it.
Description : For ask-publicites over 50. Do you feel the older you get the more people feel they need to control your life?
Last Answer : answer:I'm hopeful that it's just you (and just a phase). I'm sometimes astonished at the level of deference I'm accorded simply because I appear to know what I'm doing, what I want, or that I'm ... er done' some other way and walk away with better attitudes. I'm rambling, and I'm not even drunk.
Description : Do you write people off when they give advice about a gender they are not part of?
Last Answer : Oh jeez, women are such a pain in the butt.
Description : What act of kindness have you recently done for a total stranger, either because they requested it or for no reason at all?
Last Answer : answer:A crack head came up to me one day while I was working and wanted some money. I had an extra sandwich in my lunch box and offered it to him instead. He said no thanks. And I said Are ... didn't understand really, he was wanting some money to get a sandwich so he said. It hurt my feelings.
Description : What would you do if you saw kids acting inappropriately in a fast food place, where they might be hurt?
Last Answer : answer:I would have grabbed the little brats, twisted their ears, and gave them a big kick in the rumps! Lol. Seriously, I would have walked over to the mother and told her what her kids were doing, ... though I'd love to) Going over and tellling the brats myself, in a firm manner, would work too.
Description : Do people do things they don't really mean under the influence of alcohol or do they do things they really want but are ashamed of wanting?
Last Answer : answer:Well, alcohol is said to inhibit a person's inhibitors. But, I have seen my friends who are alcoholics really do and say very mean things that I do not believe is really who they are. Alcohol ... . I don't see why we should considered the liquored up brain the true self? Just my opinion.
Description : Did these bullies always get a slap on the wrist and that is why they felt they could set another kid on fire?
Last Answer : answer:People always say stuff like this and it makes no sense to me. They set someone on fire. That isn't something that can be fixed with a good ol' spankin' . The kids who did that are fucked up. They ... d be thinking wow, I seriously fucked my kid up and I hope it's not too late to fix this.
Description : What would cause a person to do everything they can for everyone but their wife and child?
Last Answer : Resentment perhaps. He views his family as an obligation and a weight. Something that holds him back and down. Not as a blessing. Everyone else becomes and excuse to get away from them. To be free of them. Just spitballing here.
Description : What does it mean when people do rude things as they walk near or past you?
Last Answer : not only teens.. You can notice this sort of behavior also with Security guards and mean bus drivers. Anyone who hates their job really. I think people tend to mistreat others whenever they don’t perceive there to be a benefit in investing in that relationship.
Description : Why do most people put their heads down as they pass others?
Last Answer : You do awkwardly smile at people who don’t know you, though.