I’m not finding it the same experience at all. My grandson lives about 2 hours away from us now and we see him about once a month. My son and his wife are great, great parents and while I love seeing Jake, I don’t feel I have to think or worry about him all the time. I’m sure if there is ever a problem with him I will be very worried and very involved. Meanwhile, as things are, we are happy to be adjunct parents, not pseudo-parents, who continue to have our full adult lives.