Is living in a house for no charge,instead of getting cash for child support a good idea? Or even legal? Or have I messed up my kid's life?

Is living in a house for no charge,instead of getting cash for child support a good idea? Or even legal? Or have I messed up my kid's life?
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answer:So move out and take child support instead. Your exhusband sounds very controlling, and as long as you are financially dependent he can control you. Don’t get me wrong, I know he should take care of his financial responsibilities to his children, but it sou ds like you need hos money more like alimony to live. I am not judging you, right now I am not working and if I divorced I would have to get my act together and get back to work and start supporting myself. But, I do know money is power and independence, and you will feel better if you are not dependent on him so much. That he called your daughter a slut is awful, he said it because she got her nose pierced?And your is too? So then he was attracted to and married a whore? Just awful his temper. Sounds like a bunch of mach bullshit.
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