Are you in a blended family, how do you view the kids?

Are you in a blended family, how do you view the kids?
by

1 Answer

Answer :

answer:It depends on when one enters their lives. A new dad moving in with mom when the child is 7 or under, can integrate so that the step parent becomes a fully accepted parent. Older than that it gets tricky. My sweetie and I each have kids that are older (late teens/early twenties), and the kids accept us as a couple, but neither of us are stepping into a parental role.
by

Related questions

What is your view on adoption from the childs perspective?

Description : What is your view on adoption from the childs perspective?

Last Answer : All parents make mistakes, and not all parents whether real of adoptive are not perfect. If you are angry about the things they said can you not talk to them? If you are an adult now perhaps distance yourself from them if you find them hurtful.

Should people have to prove they're qualified to raise kids before reproducing?

Description : Should people have to prove they're qualified to raise kids before reproducing?

Last Answer : I didn't read all your details but I do agree with you people should prove they are at least somewhat capable of raising children before they have them. Because we all know making the kids is the fun ... to have children and the older I get the more happy I become knowing we made the right choice.

Do you think a parent should be able to shut off their kids' cell phones remotely? (see details)

Description : Do you think a parent should be able to shut off their kids' cell phones remotely? (see details)

Last Answer : answer:If your child is allowing you to pay for their phone, and you have the option of shutting the phone down if they don’t respond to your inquiries, then you should feel free to do so. A child using a phone that you are paying for is a dependent, and subject to your rules.

Rude obnoxious kids, product of parenting, or they are just born that way?

Description : Rude obnoxious kids, product of parenting, or they are just born that way?

Last Answer : Products of bad parenting, from what I’ve experienced with neighbors and friends.

My mom creeps out little kids -- including my daughter. How do I deal?

Description : My mom creeps out little kids -- including my daughter. How do I deal?

Last Answer : Let someone else tell her. Counseling perhaps? Maybe the 3 of you?

How much screen time for kids?

Description : How much screen time for kids?

Last Answer : answer:We don't limit screen time at all. Our kids are ages 15, 12 and turning 9 next week. (Going into grades 4, 7 and 11.) None of our kids are overweight, they all get good grades ... bedtimes to ensure they get sufficient sleep, and we're definitely hands-on/involved with our kids at all times.

Will you eat (or let your kids eat) homemade Halloween trick or treats?

Description : Will you eat (or let your kids eat) homemade Halloween trick or treats?

Last Answer : Oh my god, I think you should probably be happy if people are putting effort into a Halloween treat and its anything rather than just straight up candy. Yes, I'd dig right into it. If I feared there was a ... don't have children. But I am a child, so I eat candy, so I think that's relevant too.

In your opinion, is putting obese kids into foster care a wise plan?

Description : In your opinion, is putting obese kids into foster care a wise plan?

Last Answer : No, putting any kids into foster care (the kind that exists in NYC, anyhow) isn’t a wise plan. Besides, I don’t see why the solution can’t be provision of same intervention for the entire family. Do you know how I’d cope with being forced away from my family? By eating. NOT ideal.

Is living in a house for no charge,instead of getting cash for child support a good idea? Or even legal? Or have I messed up my kid's life?

Description : Is living in a house for no charge,instead of getting cash for child support a good idea? Or even legal? Or have I messed up my kid's life?

Last Answer : answer:So move out and take child support instead. Your exhusband sounds very controlling, and as long as you are financially dependent he can control you. Don't get me wrong, I know he should take ... was attracted to and married a whore? Just awful his temper. Sounds like a bunch of mach bullshit.

Driving from N. Carolina to Disney World - is turning around the car because the kids are misbehaving and going home good parenting, or going too far?

Description : Driving from N. Carolina to Disney World - is turning around the car because the kids are misbehaving and going home good parenting, or going too far?

Last Answer : Whoops, forgot to post the follow-up on the same site: Me, my wife, and my 2 kids were driving to Disney World. After almost 12 hours, the kids started to fight. Angry, I shouted to them ... realize that I've wasted hotel fare, DisneyWorld fees, Gas, and clothing. All of it is nonrefundable. FML.

Is it hypocritical when parents who have done illegal drugs in their lives (I'd bet half the population has tried something illegal) tell their kids "Don't do drugs?"?

Description : Is it hypocritical when parents who have done illegal drugs in their lives (I'd bet half the population has tried something illegal) tell their kids "Don't do drugs?"?

Last Answer : No.

Would you make your kids (who have money) pay for furniture they break while rough housing?

Description : Would you make your kids (who have money) pay for furniture they break while rough housing?

Last Answer : the only way they will learn. Go for it.

Is it hypocritical when parents who have done illegal drugs in their lives (I'd bet half the population has tried something illegal) tell their kids "Don't do drugs?"?

Description : Is it hypocritical when parents who have done illegal drugs in their lives (I'd bet half the population has tried something illegal) tell their kids "Don't do drugs?"?

Last Answer : No.

When is it acceptable to tell one's kids to get out of the car and walk?

Description : When is it acceptable to tell one's kids to get out of the car and walk?

Last Answer : answer:If you are close to home, and know it is relatively safe – then ok – out in the country or unfamiliar area – no. I would follow them in the car. I don’t use that particular method, but they know that if I have to stop the car, everybody is going to end up very unhappy.

What are your thoughts about parents that throw their kids out of the house because they admit that they are gay or lesbian?

Description : What are your thoughts about parents that throw their kids out of the house because they admit that they are gay or lesbian?

Last Answer : I think it is disgusting. Whatever happened to unconditional love?

What do you do when you cant stand one of your kids?

Description : What do you do when you cant stand one of your kids?

Last Answer : answer:I think you are very brave for exploring this issue. The first step in anything is to recognize the problem, or to quote a certian big psychologist - to own it. You have. I do think ... ask a fluther question. I suggest taking this up with a professional. Good luck, and welcome to fluther.

How to get kids to stop being so loud?

Description : How to get kids to stop being so loud?

Last Answer : Teach them how to read.

Parents: Can you recommend a good web filtering program for kids (Net Nanny, etc.)?

Description : Parents: Can you recommend a good web filtering program for kids (Net Nanny, etc.)?

Last Answer : yes. It's called parenting. you need to monitor what you daughter is doing better. Don't let her have her own laptop or computer. Its actually illegal for your 9 year old to be signed up to sites on ... sure she is using a computer where you can see her. That's the best web filtering in the world.

Would you rather be super busy and have more money for your family or just get by and have a lot of time with your family?

Description : Would you rather be super busy and have more money for your family or just get by and have a lot of time with your family?

Last Answer : I’m a single mom with no family other than my 12 year old son. I need a balance. I work long hours when I have work and I just get by. I am used to busy. Would like a better paying job.

When you were a child, did you have any favourite family rituals?

Description : When you were a child, did you have any favourite family rituals?

Last Answer : answer:Every Thanksgiving at my grandparents, we would all gather in the basement after the meal and have dessert. We'd set up their slide projector and all look at old family photos while eating ... looking for more daily family rituals/parenting stuff. I guess I have my grandmother on my mind.

What is UP with parents and Family Guy?

Description : What is UP with parents and Family Guy?

Last Answer : It’s not very funny, and the humor is a half step above potty jokes. My son likes it, my daughter doesn’t. As a parent I didn’t allow it at all until they were older. Cheap degrading sexual humor and poop jokes are not funny and not what I want my kids to think of as quality humor.

Is it illegal to kick a 15 year old dependant child out of the family home in Australia?

Description : Is it illegal to kick a 15 year old dependant child out of the family home in Australia?

Last Answer : answer:I suggest you call “child protective services” or call the police of the area where he is. Does he have a school or relative he can call? Perhaps have him call 000, the emergency number in Australia and ask for protection.

What are your thoughts on allowing teenagers the odd alcoholic drink at home with the family?

Description : What are your thoughts on allowing teenagers the odd alcoholic drink at home with the family?

Last Answer : answer:I think it's best to not make a big deal out of it, at all. By making it less of a big issue' the desire to do it will probably disappear. At least, I presume so. Getting shit-faced ... it doesn't taste very good, except wine. Not that I've tasted much, but I prefer not tasting the alcohol.

What is the difference between blended and extended family?

Description : What is the difference between blended and extended family?

Last Answer : The common example of a blended family is a divorced man withkids, who marries a divorced woman with kids. The kids collectivelyare "theirs". That is a "blended family". An extended family ... parents and siblings, then your twosets of grandparents, then your aunts and uncles, your cousins,etc.

What is the difference between blended and extended family?

Description : What is the difference between blended and extended family?

Last Answer : The common example of a blended family is a divorced man withkids, who marries a divorced woman with kids. The kids collectivelyare "theirs". That is a "blended family". An extended family ... parents and siblings, then your twosets of grandparents, then your aunts and uncles, your cousins,etc.

Is my son's behavior suspicious?

Description : Is my son's behavior suspicious?

Last Answer : No. I don't agree. According to this post your son has bipolar disorder and anger anxiety/related issues. His behavior is likely symptomatic of his condition - Not suspicious of whatever else you imagine ... person and keep calling him out . It just makes me wonder who's obsessing about what.

Why would anyone say such a thing? (See details)

Description : Why would anyone say such a thing? (See details)

Last Answer : Maybe your son does know the person.

How to deal with my parents?

Description : How to deal with my parents?

Last Answer : Not sure of the societal standards where you are from. But at 25, it is time to stand up to your father. When he comes to your house to harangue you, send him on his way. When he wants to tell you ... , but wouldn't get demanding or angry if they didn't take it. It is their lives to lead not mine.

Why do we call sending a child to his/her room as "grounded" ?

Description : Why do we call sending a child to his/her room as "grounded" ?

Last Answer : It was originally a piloting term that got borrowed by parents. When pilots aren't allowed to fly for some reason-including bad behavior-they are said to be grounded (since they are stuck on the ... want, the term got applied in that context as well (originally as slang, but then it stuck).

Can a parent hire a babysitter or nanny for 18 years?

Description : Can a parent hire a babysitter or nanny for 18 years?

Last Answer : I figure some rich people probably do.

How do you teach someone that they shouldn’t lie?

Description : How do you teach someone that they shouldn’t lie?

Last Answer : You point to our President as the model for what can be achieved through telling the truth.

Why do some dads act like their daughters are their sweethearts?

Description : Why do some dads act like their daughters are their sweethearts?

Last Answer : I can understand your discomfort. I guess it depends on how this parent’s generation were raised, it was a different time back then. It can also be a factor of the daughter’s own behavior and personality, some girls are tomboys so they require a more normal treatment.

As a child, when you were crying, did your parents ever threaten you with violence to make you stop?

Description : As a child, when you were crying, did your parents ever threaten you with violence to make you stop?

Last Answer : No. That sort of threat was usually reserved for inappropriate mirth.

If your father, or in some cases, mother hit you or abused you emotionally or sexually, how have you resolved/accepted/put it behind you?

Description : If your father, or in some cases, mother hit you or abused you emotionally or sexually, how have you resolved/accepted/put it behind you?

Last Answer : I have never entirely gotten over it. It is a life-long curse.

Are women more caring than men?

Description : Are women more caring than men?

Last Answer : Penguins and other birds, certain animals, seahorses share the burden. Human females carry the baby for nine months giving birth to a helpless baby, who remain that way til, well, 30 sometimes. I ... d say girls and women are usually the more caring, reliable and nurturing of our fucked-up species.

When did you move out of your parents or caregivers home?

Description : When did you move out of your parents or caregivers home?

Last Answer : 1966

What do you think about this punishment (details inside)?

Description : What do you think about this punishment (details inside)?

Last Answer : Good for dad!

Did you grow up with both biological parents?

Description : Did you grow up with both biological parents?

Last Answer : Yes

Current or Former Parents of Teenagers — What is/was your most effective coping mechanisms?

Description : Current or Former Parents of Teenagers — What is/was your most effective coping mechanisms?

Last Answer : We, my wife and I, found it best to disconnect when things got too emotionally charged. We would tag team with each other. When one got to worked up, we would self-impose a time out and the ... be fought over another day. Having someone at your side who is still being rational is such a blessing.

What is the difference between empowering and enabling?

Description : What is the difference between empowering and enabling?

Last Answer : Empowering enables the positive. Enabling enables the negative.

Did your parents support you, believe in you?

Description : Did your parents support you, believe in you?

Last Answer : No. They disowned me when I was 17. No loss. I disowned them at the same time!

What are the best activities to do with a 9 year old that don't cost a lot of money?

Description : What are the best activities to do with a 9 year old that don't cost a lot of money?

Last Answer : You could let him help bake cookies, color and/or paint with him (if they still do that these days), put potting soil in egg cartons and plant seeds to put out later , color Easter eggs.

Are you (or were your parents) (or would you be) a free range parent or a helicopter parent, or somewhere in between?

Description : Are you (or were your parents) (or would you be) a free range parent or a helicopter parent, or somewhere in between?

Last Answer : answer:I have been a 0 as a parent. I never objected to my kids going where they wanted, as long as I knew where they were. It was a dynamic tension between trusting them and letting ... ; they would never allow their sons to be in the same circumstance. I thought they were overly fastidious.

My 12 year old daughter keeps saying she's ugly. What can I do to help?

Description : My 12 year old daughter keeps saying she's ugly. What can I do to help?

Last Answer : Your daughter strikes me as a compassionate and intelligent young woman. I think encouraging her to value attributes other than her looks would be a good plan. Can you get her involved in any ... herself for reasons beyond her prettiness is something that will be helpful to her across her life.

Would you tell your 4 year old if you had a miscarriage?

Description : Would you tell your 4 year old if you had a miscarriage?

Last Answer : answer:If the 4 year old already was expecting a sibling, and the 4 year old was asking about the baby, I think I would have to say something. What's her plan? To get pregnant again and hope her son just ... so it makes some sense to him. I'd also not tell my son I was preggers until about month 6.

Is there anything you wish your parents did differently raising you?

Description : Is there anything you wish your parents did differently raising you?

Last Answer : answer:As flawed as my father was and as toxic as my mother became, really nothing. They were who they were and I can't really fault them for that. If I had to say one thing, I wish they ... but the lying, emotional manipulation, anger issues, drugs, and all around drama I've made peace with. Weird.

Where did you learn to lie?

Description : Where did you learn to lie?

Last Answer : It came naturally, a defense mechanism to “cover” my flaws and inabilities. However, there are different types of lies and it’s the big whoppers I avoid. @RedDeerGuy1 sounds like there’s a lot of pain in there. Try to rise above it, just let bygones be bygones and move on.

What are your thoughts on "helicopter parenting" vs "free-range parenting"?

Description : What are your thoughts on "helicopter parenting" vs "free-range parenting"?

Last Answer : I think a combination of both is good at an early age. A balance of both never hurt anyone when used correctly.

Why is everyone immediately blaming the child's mother?

Description : Why is everyone immediately blaming the child's mother?

Last Answer : Oh, Dutchess…

How to be a successful stay at home dad?

Description : How to be a successful stay at home dad?

Last Answer : answer:Those skills (driving, housekeeping) are not skills specific to a stay at home dad, but are skills everyone ought to learn (although driving is not necessary if you live in a city like ... when my daughter was in Girl Scouts, I was the parent that accompanied her on mother daughter events.