Driving from N. Carolina to Disney World - is turning around the car because the kids are misbehaving and going home good parenting, or going too far?

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Whoops, forgot to post the follow-up on the same site: “Me, my wife, and my 2 kids were driving to Disney World. After almost 12 hours, the kids started to fight. Angry, I shouted to them that if they acted up again, I would turn around and go straight back home. They did, And I kept my word. It was only after my anger was down and we were halfway back did I realize that I’ve wasted hotel fare, DisneyWorld fees, Gas, and clothing. All of it is nonrefundable. FML.”

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