Parenting: What is the best way for a young child to handle bullying?

Parenting: What is the best way for a young child to handle bullying?
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answer:I think it was handled just fine. My daughter was being bullied in first grade regularly. As we taught her, she asked the boy to stop politely, two or three times. No joy. Then she told the teacher, who mentioned it once to boy. He continued unabated and the teacher never followed up again despite my daughter and us mentioning it to her. My daughter, frustrated asked me what to do. I gave my advice. The next time this boy tried it, my daughter whips around and whispers to him, “If you touch me again, I’ll break your hand.” Dead serious, staring him in the eye. Scared the shit out of him. Never happened again. Sometimes, polite words aren’t enough.
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