If the new and enlightened method of child rearing is so successful and superior to the older ways, why is bullying and intolerance apparently increasing?

If the new and enlightened method of child rearing is so successful and superior to the older ways, why is bullying and intolerance apparently increasing?
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I don’t think there actually is more bullying and vandalism going on today, it’s just that we are much more aware of it. There was plenty of it going on when I was in school, I know that.
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