answer:First, I think that something must be going on for this person to be 40 lbs overweight. I was there once – I gained exactly 40 lbs after the birth of my daughter. I wasn’t sleeping, was very stressed out. Then I lost my job and got depressed. The extra weight felt very uncomfortable and made me claustrophobic. I was not in a good place. I took care of the depression, got a job, and lost the 40lbs in a few months. So, in a way, it makes me wonder what’s going on with this woman? Is she depressed? Can I still be physically attracted to her? Hell yes.