Parents of tweens and young teens: What's your strategy for managing your child's cell phone usage?

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My kids are a bit younger than your daughter, but they have a phone for emergencies. They are only allowed to make and receive calls to and from immediate family members, no texting or calling just for the sake of calling. Definitely no data plan, no internet or picture mail. When they are home, the phone is put away or shut off. They know this, and for the time being they are really good about adhering to the rules. At the same time, they feel uber-cool that they get to have a phone at all.

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