A young couple totally on the fence about having children, asks for your opinion what do say?

A young couple totally on the fence about having children, asks for your opinion what do say?
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answer:“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times….” I did have those talks with one of my children. I tried not to influence the decision either way but I said that for me, it was the most significantly rich experience of my life and I would have regretted not having them. YMMV, of course.
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