Can we talk about flaking?

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answer:I flake a lot. Say what you will, I know it’s been discussed here before, and most jellies despise flaky people… but I’m not going to pretend. I have agoraphobia, I’m an anxious person. Often I feel obligated to agree to social invitations because I have repeatedly declined past invitations or because the person inviting me is being pushy, and then when the time comes, I panic and don’t go. Most of the people who know me are aware of this, and it’s just an accepted thing. There’s always the chance that I will decide not to show up at the last minute, and it has just become old hat. I feel badly if there are hard feelings, but, not so much that I will force myself to do things that I sincerely don’t want to do. I don’t need a lot of socializing in large groups. Maybe once every few months, and preferably at my home. I much prefer to entertain than to go out, even to someone else’s home. I do like one-on-one socializing, I do that more often. I’m less likely to cancel plans if it is just one other person. I don’t mind flaky people, because.. well, that would be silly of me. So, if someone cancels at the last minute, I really don’t care.

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