answer:It wouldn’t fly over here, as a bunch of different phrases wouldn’t. But at the end of the day words are all just what you make of them. Who cares if she calls you colored, and in her life/society/whatever it’s not derogatory. Who cares if it is derogatory to her even? If all it takes to legitimately damage your self perception and self esteem is someone using a word that may or may not be derogatory in nature to them… then you are in for a long life my friend. I say brush it off. If they did say it to be derogatory, they’ll learn that simple insults aren’t going to put you down. And if they didn’t mean it to be derogatory, then who really cares? Sticks and stones.