answer:That would really depend on the situation. If I’m paying a carpenter I expect him to do exactly what I want him to do. However, he’s also the professional so to a certain extent it would have to be hands off. (Sorry about assuming a carpenter is a “he,” but I had to chose for the sake of brevity!) If a homeless person, or poor person, asks me for money for a specific reason IE: “I’m hungry.” Then yes, I would be more likely to buy them some food rather than giving them cash. Kids and allowance…well, first of all they’d be working their little butts off for the $5.00 a week and I would not control how it was spent unless it came to light that they were buying drugs or something. Then I’d cut them off fast.