answer:I am in a similar position although the person who is toxic is not religious. However, his anger and reactive blame behavior has made me ill. I did try all sorts of things to help him and to help myself deal with ‘me’ trying to stop ‘me’ from being party to such a toxic relationship. I quit analyzing what was wrong with me? Why did I continue to try and love the person? Frankly we are human and we do love certain people in our families. It is not that complicated really. In the end due to abusive behavior I have had to cut ties. It has not been long, but I do notice I think a little less often about him hour by hour. That is how I have had to do it, hour by hour. I decided due to my own mental illness I cannot be party to a number of things, like, not sleeping well, not eating well or being part of a toxic relationship. It is deadly for me as my emotions go all over the place. I think a basic rule of relationships is something like symbiosis, give and take, win and win? I was never sure of this since I was part of a dysfunctional family myself. But if everything is one way it is the highway. I certainly would not have the time nor patience (in your case) to entertain judgemental people. Who if you forgive me for saying, have a mental illness?