I’m not very good at picking out other people who were abused, but I think that’s partially because I was gaslighted about it for many years. A friend of mine who was abused and who had the resources to face up to it right away picked me out very quickly as someone who had been abused, and one of my colleagues who was abused was able to do the same. They both pointed out some signs to look out for, so I’m trying to get better at recognizing who around me might have been abused. But like I said, I’m not very good at it yet.