Seeking Flutherite opinions -- How would you handle this sad family matter?

Seeking Flutherite opinions -- How would you handle this sad family matter?
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I have personal issues with shame around behavior and calling attention to myself in public so I would not be able to go with her to a restaurant. My mother didn’t have that problem but was often very tactless in public and I couldn’t stand it. Are things like picnics a possibility?
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