How does your family deal with aging parents?

How does your family deal with aging parents?
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If your Q is the one in red, at the top, my answer is: pretty poorly. I moved closer to mine to help, and did a lot before my dad passed. My two older sisters, who live further away, are virtually useless, and refused to help even with the things that could be accomplished at a distance. I am now estranged from my mother and my sisters are still useless. Fortunately, my mother is wealthy, and still compos mentis, but I am out of the process now. If your Q is the last sentence of your details, I would recommend contacting the most comprehensive senior center near you, they can probably steer you towards advice and resources. Good luck with this!
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