Do any fellow jellies have a difficult time around the holidays with missing family members or loved ones?

Do any fellow jellies have a difficult time around the holidays with missing family members or loved ones?
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This year I am missing my daughter and her family who moved to Scotland. I’m also missing my son and his family who aren’t talking to me. :-( I can handle my son and his wife not talking to me but I miss the grand kids terribly. Last year I got my grandson an iPod for *********. He accidentally facetimed me the other day. It was great to see his little face!
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