Ignoring the issue of age (my kids are 5, 8, and 11), my general approach is the same, although with kids, one size does not fit all. They are 3 different individuals with unique needs, skills, and challenges. If my approach is to meet them exactly where they are developmentally and as individuals, there is bound to be difference in the interactions I am having with my 5-year-old and my daughter when she was 5.