answer:The draining feeling you described is what a counselor once told me people with borderline personality disorders or other like disorders. In which case I say they can only help themselves. But my. Mother was always like that. She still can be. It is due to her type a personality. But also due to over twenty years of emotional physical and verbal abuse. I have picked up on the whole being critical thing as well. But I am hyper aware of it and can usually turn it around. By making a decision or commitment to put as much or more energy into seeing the positive as I do the negative. I also find that if I persist in vocalizing the positive I can influence others to be just as positive. Also the brain is very prone to suggestion even one’s own suggestion. So if I can maintain and persist I can convince myself to be more optimistic. Although there are times when using observation to note both the positive and negative can help me evaluate a situation appropriately and with a certain amount of caution.