How do I, as a straight parent, help my teen through a gender identity crisis?

How do I, as a straight parent, help my teen through a gender identity crisis?
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answer:With love and total acceptance of where they are at. Any qualms you have, keep to yourself. And do a lot of reading – there are excellent books and online resources out there. PFLAG is a support organization for parents of gay and lesbian and transgender kids. You can look them up online as a place to start reading.
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