How does a parent talk to their high-school-aged children about stress?

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answer:MY parents never used the word “stress.” My sibs and I were dream children as far as they were concerned…lots of bragging rights…so it never came up directly. I think that the best way to talk to your daughters is to listen and to help them made the decisions that help them. My folks tended to lecture. It made having a conversation difficult. I never dared share any important emotional information about me with them. I used my friends as therapists, and vice versa.

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