Have you ever known someone, who turned out not to be the way you thought they were?

Have you ever known someone, who turned out not to be the way you thought they were?
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Well, there was my ex-husband. I know when we separated his behaviour left me wondering if I’d ever known him at all! I was stunned by some of the things he did. It really made me question my ability to evaluate people.
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