Women: Have you ever had a good male friend...and when he gets involved with someone else, your friendship suffers?

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I was best friends with this guy and we were really close like brother and sister and all of a sudden he got with this girl and she deleted my number out of his phone and everything and told him not to talk to me anymore. It really confused me because I obviously wasn’t a threat he called me his “lil sis” and i called him “big bro” I think the girl is a total wack job.

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