Do kids really need both parents' families to be their "family"?

Do kids really need both parents' families to be their "family"?
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No, they don’t. Sadly, they might like the baby more than you. Grandparents go all gooey for that kind of thing and can simultaneously hate the person who brought the baby into the world. People are all kinds of twisted.
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