Welcome to fluther! I have physical disabilities. My son is autistic. I get it. I feel that frustration. People judge. There is a valid evolutionary reason for that. Humans are carnivores. Some humans claim a vegetarian life, but their DNA is carnivore. Animal behavior follows patterns. There are nocturnal, diurnal, herbivore, carnivore, hunters, scavengers, grazers. If you watch, most herbivores run when confronted by carnivores. However, carnivores encountering other carnivores, they watch each other. They observe. Is this hunter a threat? Will this hunter drive away my future prey? If I just wait, will this hunter move on? Mostly humans have overcome the study of each other, not completely, but mostly. So, we can’t hope for humans to stop sizing up each other. We are designed that way. All we can do, is be surprisingly more than they expect. It chips away at their hasty judgements. Little by little, some change their way of looking at people. Consider yourself a diplomat, an official who represents people on the spectrum. That is what will earn you respect. Someday you will find yourself feeling pride, when you see proof you have changed someone’s attitude about you, or maybe others on the spectrum. Then you will see yourself differently. That will show, and carnivores will judge you differently. Going off the deep end will not make you seem competent. It will only convince people you are unprincipled.