I have been sober 22 years. I worked the steps and did amends in step 9. I only wanted to know that the other person heard me and told me honestly how they felt. If I was forgiven, great! If the other person wished to never see me again, then that was what I was willing to do on my side. We do amends for ourselves. We don’t do it for the benefit of the person receiving the amends. We must do them in order to remain sober, get better, and live a free life. The vast majority of the people I approached forgave me, and a few told me not to do it again. I haven’t.