How long did you wait after a major break up to get seriously involved with another person, and how successful was that new relationship? (In terms of duration and happiness)

How long did you wait after a major break up to get seriously involved with another person, and how successful was that new relationship? (In terms of duration and happiness)
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Depends. There isn’t really answer that can put something like this in a perfect little package. Every person and every relationship is totally different. My first girlfriend took a long time for me to move on. My last one only took me finding enough change in my dirty laundry to ride the bus to the library and meet someone there.
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