Is this an inappropriate way to grieve over an ex if in a relationship?

Is this an inappropriate way to grieve over an ex if in a relationship?
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answer:Somebody that one was involved with dies a sudden and tragic death with whom one shares a child, it’s all appropriate. What is inappropriate is someone (you) judging his posts and sentiments like he shouldn’t “feel” that way. Once one has a child with someone there is a bond, no matter how awful it gets or what happens after.
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