How much privacy did your parents demand when you were younger?

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My mom would let my sister and I go through her clothes and try them on…lol Only if we asked first. Otherwise, I could go in my parents’ room if I wanted to. My mom would sometimes take out some of her jewelry and let us look at it because we always thought it was cool when we were little. I don’t have much reason to go in my parents’ bedroom nowadays; there’s nothing for me there. But my parents have a really nice huge fancy-ass bathroom, so sometimes I like to use it…lol. And I can go in there if I want to. Every room in the house is fair game. There are just some I don’t have much desire to go in. But really, there wasn’t much restriction when I was younger mostly because we never really found much reason to go in my parents’ room and they didn’t find much reason to bar us from going in there. I can’t remember too much, I’m sure if we were in there when they didn’t want us in there, they would’ve told us to leave and I’m sure if we messed anything up they wouldn’t have been happy. I don’t remember ever feeling like I wasn’t allowed to go in there, though. Same with my dad’s office. I could always go in there as long as I didn’t start messing stuff up. If my dad was working, I probably wouldn’t have wanted to go in there and I’m sure he would’ve said “I’m busy” or something like that.

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